What is your definition of True Love ?

Topic: WHAT IS YOUR DEFINITION OF TRUE LOVE ?

A true thing is something touchable that you can clearly see and feel. How about something intangible whose reality you can never touch but only believe and feel to the deepest of your breath ?

Love is hard to define. According to dictionary’s definition, Love is a strong passionate affection for another person. According to Biblical definition, “Love is patient and kind; Love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things; believes all things; hopes all things; endures all things.”

Only three words “I love you” seem to be able to help one express his feeling for the one he loves, but just a few words can never be enough to help one define what Love really is. Therefore, people always try to reach for the meaning of True Love although they may need to spend several time, or even all the time of their whole life on searching.

Few days ago, while surfing the internet in hope of figuring out a quite satisfactory definition of Love, I accidentally came across a short story which really touched my heart. It is a true story that did happen in Japan...

A man was tearing down his wooden wall in a plan to renovate his 10-year-old house while he suddenly found a lizard stuck in the hollow space between the wall layers because the nail from outside was hammered into one of its feet. Then when he checked the nail, it turned out to be nailed 10 years ago when the house was first built.

At that moment, the man was quite confused. He wondered how this lizard could survive in such a position for 10 years, in a dark wall partition without moving a single step, so he decided to pause his work and observed the lizard. Later, not knowing from where it came, he saw another lizard appear with food in its mouth.

He was stunned and at the same time, touched deeply. Another lizard had been feeding the stuck one untiringly for 10 years long without giving up hope on its partner.

As people always say, Love can perform miracles!

Even a small creature like a lizard, which surely doesn’t know the definition of Love, and will never do, can love like that. Then why people always waste their time wondering about and searching for the answer to their question about Love without noticing that sometimes Love is just hiding underneath simplest and littlest things they do to or make for others? And Love itself does not have a particular definition, each person will have their own one.

Frankly speaking, at the age of 20, I myself have never ever experienced the taste of Love before. However, for what I have got through reading novels, or watching films, or observing people around me, I believe that “Love doesn't make the world go around. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” [Franklin P. Jones ].

In my own opinion, my parents' love for each other is a real example of a True Love. Since they were together, they have learned to look beyond the problems and doubts and realize that no matter what task may come to hand, their love can find a way through it. Together they have given me a happy family, a happy life. The Love that my parents keep for each other is not too enthusiastic like it usually is in novels that I read, there are not too many sweet-covered words either. Their Love is merely gentle but unshakable. And I strongly believe that nothing out there will be able to separate them. And the Love like this, to me, is a real True Love.

However, Love is not always sweet and easy, it is not for the hearts which are afraid of breaking, nor for the souls which fear for dying, as Marc Levy once said “There are some pains of love that time cannot erase, they leave deep in smile such scars that will never be healed.” [Vous revoir – 2005]. Love sometimes needs to be challenged before coming to the happy ending. Even so, no matter how hard it is, just to love and to be loved is a great happiness in one’s life.

After all, although there is still no really satisfactory definition for True Love, one will surely be able to acknowledge it when it comes to him, because True Love is something intangible whose reality one can never touch but only believe and feel to the deepest of his breath.